Q:
My
question is "How can one best deal with the stress of
not having a relationship with a preferred life
partner?" There are many people in my situation, I'm
sure men and women who have achieved most or all of
their career goals and are living financially secure but
empty lives because of loneliness and disconnection. I
have everything I ever thought I wanted including good
health. I am simply not able to meet a suitable life
partner and create a healthy, committed relationship for
the remainder of my life here. Along the way, I would
have given up some of my other goals in order to have
met "the right man" and settled down into the
householder's life. This perceived lack creates stress
and unhappiness to the degree that I sometimes do not
enjoy my many other blessings.
A: Longing for a
mate should not be pursued on physical, mental, or
social level. Longing for a mate should have the
foundation of virtues and values, like a sacred oath. A
human has to be trained to accept life mutually with
another human. When two people are conscious, mutuality
has to set the rule. In that, life becomes a sweet
tender give and take.
